In a recent, live Inner Circle call, Rabbi Kelemen answered the following question. Members can submit questions like these to Rabbi Kelemen and tune into the monthly calls with him.

"As a ba'alas teshuva, many of my coping skills were developed when I was immersed in secular culture, namely secular music and watching television shows. These behaviors are not in line with the rest of my hashkafa nor my community's. I have tried repeatedly to stop in various ways, only to find myself lacking the ability to cope with the many stressors in my life. Music and shows are my relaxations, my return to equilibrium. I don't pretend to believe this is ideal, but they are coping behaviors that go very very far back and I have never found suitable replacements-- Jewish music does not have the same effect, nor does watching shiurim. There is a part of me that wants to accept that I simply need these behaviors, and feel okay about it, and much of the time I do. But occasionally, I get inspiration to be better, and I feel a sadness that despite all the ways that I have removed myself from my secular upbringing, I can't feel satisfied without these. I've gone as long as a year without, but now, when daily life is so stressful, it's my only real outlet and I fear that stopping will result in resentment for the rest of my religious life. What do you recommend?"